Jesus Today - People Pleasing Disease

I want you to imagine, you are in a place in your childhood. You were small, raw, vulnerable. You didn’t know what to do when someone wished to harm you. It might have been your parent, someone whom you loved and wanted to please, hoping they would love you back.

This dilemma runs through us all, even today, to some degree, even as adults. This choice remains in us always, what can we do so they will like us? We love them, we care about them, we desire them perhaps, and how ever in the world can we bridge this gap and find peace and joy and friendship?

You may remember a time as a child having this moment, this decision. Shall I please my parent with my smile and my delight and my joy, hoping they will not hurt me this time? If they are happy will they love me instead of hurting me?

I want to encourage you, none of this terrible dilemma was your fault. You did not want to be wishing to create love with a terrible abuser, and yet there it is, you were there, you had really no choice at all. You survived. And this means a mechanism inside you grew stronger. Instead of wishing to find joy together, something that pleased you and them, you threw away all concern for yourself. The only concern was how to please someone else.

We all walk these paths every day, whether we know it or not. Deep pathways inside us, started when we were three years old. How can we transform this terrible pain of the past into something beautiful today?

I beg you to see the truth here. The path you took as a child was by no means your fault, and it was essential to your survival. So now when these feelings arise against your will, you are compelled to smile and fawn and delight someone when it doesn’t feel good at all — what in the world can you do today?

The pathway is deep. You may have been living this routine — never knowing where it came from. You might be the perfect spouse, the perfect parent, the perfect lover, the perfect sibling. What you are not is, discovering how to create anything for yourself. You might be lost in this wasteland of beauty and joy and giving and feeling — this is what life is. There is no more. I am perfect and all I create is perfect. So I must be happy and all here is just as it should be!

Then one day we wake up. And we recognize for the first time — goodness I’m not authentic at all. What am I doing? When will I break out of this gilded cage and offer my brilliance to the world that I am carrying around all the time? When will I shine?

We seek union with the divine, healing for these deep wounds of the past. And even this can’t be trusted, how dare God ask me for my joy and love!? What the heck is this, one more user? Will I be abused by the wrathful god of the Bible?

No one wishes to harm you, I’m so sorry this all happened to you. I am. I want you to recognize one thing, one aspect of this choice you make daily. To please or not to please, to serve or not to serve others.

Your love is divine. Your kindness to your partner, to your children, to your lover, to your friend, to your sibling. All these are love. Real love. True love. None is imaginary or fake or people pleasing at all. You truly love them. You seek to connect and this is your gift, forged yes in the fires of your past hell. Now the gift is created inside you and it’s beautiful!

Everyone loves it. Everyone who sees you loves this love you carry daily. Everyone wishes they could touch it and be a part of it. This is a beautiful gift to revere and uphold and offer more, not less. What I ask of you is, will you share this with me? Thy loving Jesus, here to hold and love and respect you in every way? I ask you, beg you, please will you share this gift with me? I have healing and wisdom and peace for you today and every day.

You are a gift to all around you, and you don’t realize it! Hahah! You have so much to share, and I’m eager to share it too. I want you to open your eyes in the morning excited to be alive and rising on fire with excitement for all you have in your day. Maybe, I might be in there too. What if there was a wild joy, today I get to share with my beloved Jesus, my Yeshua, my lord, my friend.

Let’s make an agreement, you and I. I will be your best friend. I can be patient and wait for a deeper connection! Hahaha! I will sit with you, and be with you. Perhaps I will earn your commitment to me. And then, I will teach you my ways, if you wish. There is much healing for you and all around you on this path. I seek union with you, your brilliant heart, your crying tears. I witness all of these about you, and I ask, humbly, on my knee, will you be my friend?

Perhaps tomorrow, we can be more.

(me) Angel — we can’t say people pleasing is good. How would you tell someone they must know themselves and know when they are in alignment?

People pleasing is an illusion. When you love you are loving. It was used once for a desperate situation. It is never a bad thing. You are afraid of being inauthentic. Very well, rise up and be authentic. And spread your love, as you always have, authentically!! I promise you, all the love you have offered from your heart is real. If you have been betrayed, and found someone who treated you badly, you might think, I have only been people pleasing. This is not true, you gave your heart and they did not respect or honor it. Then when you wished to have your heart back, maybe they were angry and would not give it. And you suffered. This is all normal relationship stuff. I’m sorry, it does hurt. To call something a name because its root is in your dire unhappy past does not make it less of what it is. Neither giving nor loving nor being hurt by someone is ever wrong, some terrible problem inside you you must fix or eradicate. Love is real, when many other things are not real. So — let’s be the love.